A long time ago my teacher, Pia Mellody, taught me a mantra I want to share.
“I am precious and valuable. I am enough and I matter. Even if…”
As shown in the stellar research work,“Daring Greatly” by Brene Brown, all of us suffer from the fear of not being enough. I used to think it was my private plaguing thought. A cruel task master that had me constantly, anxiously, striving. I would do something as innocent as baking a cake, enjoy a few moments of satisfaction and then my demon voice would point out the flaws. Nothing was safe from her critical eye, especially around high-stake issues like where to live, who to marry, which job to persue. From childhood to adulthood this voice ran my brain.
But through Pia and Brene I learned that we are greater than our thoughts, our feelings or our actions. That it is actually my job to control my brain. Just because thoughts come into my brain does not make them valid.
Over the years I’ve learned of four ego fears we all share:
- I am not enough.
- There is not enough.
- I will be rejected.
- I have to control and dominate to be safe.
If we do not manage our egoic brain, we may easily and effortlessly let one or more of these fears run our lives.
But with “I am enough,” as an active internal mantra, I learned that I could direct my brain into better thinking. That thinking helped my mind and body relax. Instead of losing energy criticizing myself, I could invigorate myself. I did not have to take things personally. I could breathe more easily.
It was a major step in managing my self esteem.
You will like it.
You will feel better.
Your life will get better.
You too are precious and valuable. You too are enough and you matter.